When winter came, the weather became quite cold and uncomfortable. Sometime, when I got home, I expected to have dinner ready or least have some warm food left for me to eat. However, from time to time, it did not happen. My wife told me that I had not helped her to look after the kids during the day and still expected her to cook something for me, that was not likely. One hidden obstacle was that I do not eat pork and other unclean foods according to the Bible. But she eats whatever she believes that they are healthy and good. So cooking for me would be an extra work for her. I grumbled a few times in the beginning. Later the teaching of the Lord came to my heart.
Luke 17:6-10 And the Lord said, If ye had faith as a grain of mustard seed, ye might say unto this sycamine tree, Be thou plucked up by the root, and be thou planted in the sea; and it should obey you. But which of you, having a servant plowing or feeding cattle, will say unto him by and by, when he is come from the field, Go and sit down to meat? And will not rather say unto him, Make ready wherewith I may sup, and gird thyself, and serve me, till I have eaten and drunken; and afterward thou shalt eat and drink? Doth he thank that servant because he did the things that were commanded him? I trow not. So likewise ye, when ye shall have done all those things which are commanded you, say, We are unprofitable servants: we have done that which was our duty to do.
As I understand one thing in the above lesson, Jesus taught us that if we are his servants, we must fear him and serve him even after we worked hard for Him or for His Name sake. Certainly, my wife was not my Lord Jesus who is above me. But when I remembered that I was a mere servant of the Lord Jesus Christ, how could I act like a Master at home to ask my wife serve me after she cooked for the kids? Did I forget the Lord whom I serve? Should I not continue to work at home to cook for myself when there was no food for me? If I dared to demand my wife to prepare food for me, least I forgot that I was a mere servant of G-d. The words of my Lord Jesus Christ sounding in my mind make me fear my good Master and remind me whom truly I am. Therefore, I decided not to complain any more even for a minute if I must make food for myself. I started to do so with a peaceful heart and continue to do so for I want to live a blame less life towards my Lord Jesus Christ and G-d my Father in Heaven for He has loved me so much in various ways.
Was it a suffering when my wife refused to prepare any food for me when I got home? It was but not any more. For serving the Lord is my Joy. If preparing food for myself without any complaining after laboring in a cold raining day will please the Lord, how could my heart not be peaceful and thankful to the Lord? Thank G-d so much as I pray before each meal. Least I still had sufficient and good food that I could cook.
In our family, from my own experience, G-d has chosen me to follow him first and sent me to work and labor with Him. There have never be good days between us even when He blessed us much. The devil always tried to destroy our family and relationship. But, by the Love of our Lord Jesus Christ and G-d the Father, whenever I looked upon the cross where my Lord Jesus died, the strength was given and more endurance was granted. I also remembered that many broken families are among us because they refused to submit themselves to our Lord? Least, in our family, whenever there was a separation, I always tried to follow the words of the Lord to keep us united, even with new wounds on the old scars. To keep the unity of the family and to follow His words are my light and strength. It has been very hard for our marriage as the scars have been broken again and again. But, as long as I live, I will remember the above teaching of the Lord. I will remind myself that I am just a mere servant of the Lord. Without his commandment or approval, I must submit myself to him completely. If my suffering will make me whole before the Lord, I shall be glad and rejoice with the Lord. Through the years of walking with G-d the Spirit, I am sure firmly that He has no pleasure to see our separation, even divorce. I disobeyed once by a regretful attempt. But now, whatever the suffering will be, I will follow the Lord unless He permits her to do so.
How about you, my brothers and sisters? Are your marriages in trouble? have you looked upon the cross where the Lord suffered and died for our sins? If Jesus, the Only and One Son of G-d suffered for so many pains and abuse and insults and forsaking and betray, have you suffered more than him? If his obedience accomplished the work in his life, should we follow him in the same way to honor the One who called us and sent us to this world to finish His work in our lives? As your brother, I would like to encourage to do so. If the Lord could help me through so many trials and sufferings, he will also lead you pass any trial and suffering in your life. You surely will find that among the sufferings, there is peace and joy in your heart. For our Lord and G-d the Father is merciful and alive. Fear Him and empty ourselves to live a blameless life. For we please not men or ladies, but G-d Himself alone. May the Lord strengthen you all and unite you all. Have faith in all situations and Fear the Lord. May the peace and joy from the Lord be will all who fear the Lord. Amen.